IS WEDDING PLANNING SUCKING BIG TIME?

Who would have thought that we’d be here! Most of the world is under lock down, life as we knew it came to an unexpected halt. I had this blog post ready to go before everything happened. But I think it’s still fitting to share, but in a different light than before.

I think, more than ever, right now that we are all coming back to the ground and seeing things for what they are. And weddings are exempt from that. With all of the weddings being canceled or postponed right now, I think we can all agree that weddings are so much more than all of the pomp and circumstance that they have been for the last how ever long.

Couples are rewriting their plans, smaller weddings, just family, just the couple and the officiant. A lot has changed, yes. But a lot still hasn’t. Love isn’t canceled, marriages are still happening, but now its in a more intimate setting. All of this is hopefully making a lot of people see what weddings are really for. It’s a time when you get to marry the love of your life, that’s really it. I think it’s so beautiful how people are still getting married, they are still celebrating. Nothing, not even a global pandemic can halt love. That to me is a very profound and beautiful thing.

If you are in the middle of rethinking your wedding, if you are planning your wedding for next year or the year after. I hope these questions and thoughts will help you process and come to a mutual understanding with your significant other as to where you stand on the whole “wedding” thing.

Please be kind to yourselves.

I’m not saying this happens at ALL weddings, but it is a trend that I have seen over my 10 years of doing this. Couples will do things to please family and friends, even though they really don’t want to. Is it worth it? I can’t answer that for you, but from experience, couples who forgo things that don’t sit well with them have so much more fun then couples who do things they don’t want to do. P.S. you aren’t as good as hiding your facial expressions as you think you are when doing said thing you don’t want to do, pictures don’t lie guys!

No event is worth risking your mental health or general health over. Be kind, patient and gentle with yourself and the ones around you. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in it all. Find a way to ground yourself everyday, or after you’ve been doing a lot of planning. One of my favorite ways to come back down is to do this breathing routine.

This is the question that my mom always asks me when I am making a choice. I think it applies to basically everything in life, even weddings. When you’re planning, make a list of things that are non-negotiable. Then make another of things that you don’t care either way!

Read these, re-read them and then for good measure read them again!

Remember what brought you guys together to begin with. Take a deep breathe together and just sit with all of this. You will get married, and it’ll be awesome no matter what happens. There are so many people that support and love you!!